Week 18 – Pretending to understand

Eric Clapton - Pretending

Pretending to understand. This week we were asked to ponder the question, “What am I pretending Not to understand“. What a fabulous exercise! It was hard to sense the layers of deception that lay dormant and yet huge obstructions to reaching my ideals. As in the lyrics of Eric Clapton’s song “Pretending” he says, “I get lost in alibis, Sadness can’t prevail, Everybody knows, Strong love can’t fail”. In the end truth and love always prevail.

Why is it that we often take the option of pretending not to know… I noticed quickly a twinge of guilt when Mark shared on last weeks call that we might be pretending that we don’t know that there are dishes in the sink, which someone will need to wash. An opportunity for a random act of kindness not taken because I pretended not to know. It is that we have things our heart tells us are there so we can fulfill our ideal life and we abdicate or ignore the call.

The question is, if we become master observers, how can we progress to the point where we answer every call to service without loosing ourselves. I have no answer (or am I simple pretending not to know?). This exercise for me will continue and become one of the well-worn cards in my deck of daily contemplative material.

It requires being present, not presuming that old blueprints will somehow resolve themselves. Since starting this program, often I have presume much of the master observer activities to be external, yet this question is purely internal and introspective. It is like the gyroscope to my guided missile; always coarse-correcting. Now if only, like the missile I can remove ego and simple follow the intuition signal as received, as Mark says, the effort required to reach my target will be dramatically reduced and energy, harmony and alignment will permeate my entire being. What a beautiful thought to hold in my mind with interest and attention gathering more of the same as Haanel taught us this week in 18:32.

Eric Clapton - Pretending Lyrics

 

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9 Replies to “Week 18 – Pretending to understand”

    1. Yvette, I’m a bit of a nut when it comes to correlating music and the lyrics of genius storytellers, like Eric Clapton, to everyday learning. This exercise was and still is painful as I go to the guy in the mirror but, transparency begins with being honest with myself. I am the foundation of my entire world within and without and solely responsible for the outcomes… this corporate turnaround has begun and the weeping and wailing needs to happen to make me a lean mean productive and purposeful machine 🙂 Have a great weekend and see you on the call!

  1. Awesome Robert. I too having looking inside since Mark asked the question Sunday. I am not happy with what I’ve found. Good news is… Now that we are aware we can make adjustments a correct our path and continue our journey. Thanks for the thought provoking message. I do want to know how you knew I had unwashed dishes in my sink? Ha!

    1. Don, Mark often speaks of hard mental effort but, this week it was a bit of a surprising wallop over the head saying you may be nearing perfect but, you still you’re not complete. Like you said, we’ve got the Master Key tools and Og to escort us through it; that combined with our mastermind buddies and our ideals are nigh at hand.

      About the dishes in the sink, it was a pretty safe assumption for Mark so I thought I would ride on his coattails 🙂

  2. An interesting and thought provoking read, Bob! One of the first things I noticed is how you substituted the word “understand” for the word “know.” I realize the two words are almost interchangeable, depending much on the mind of the beholder, and this transgression was probably inadvertent; yet it got me visualizing each word surrounded by a circle of influence, determined by the entourage of meaning each brings to the table. Where these circles overlap I reasoned is the area where there there is negligible or no noticeable difference in meaning. Yet it is the difference that might matter. Does it? Even though you quickly return to the “kmow” form of this question, the overall tone of what you’ve written to me, anyway, feels more like “understand,” than “know” – if you know what I mean? LOL

    You say “The question is, if we become master observers, how can we progress to the point where we answer every call to service without loosing ourselves. I have no answer (or am I simple pretending not to know?).”

    Once we focus our attention on something, I think we know if we are pretending are not. The answer may come as an intuitive flash, as you suggest, yet there is “perception, wisdom, and sagacity” to rely upon as well.

    You know Bob I find it interesting that this tool is used primarily to ferret out flaws, and as useful as it might be in doing that, I’m reminded of Marianne Williamson’s “Actually, who are you not to be?” We all tend to forget how much of a miracle we really are.

    Damn! I should’ve known better than to read one of your posts late at night! 🙂

    1. Loren, you are absolutely right, the subtleties of the two words may high-jack the meaning a bit. I also agree with you the we know (if we stop and think about a decision) that we are pretending. The key and the point of the article/exercise in my mind is to become the observer and call ourselves on the bluff which (aligned to the current blueprint) is automatic and a habit to be changed if we are to become our ideal. The only way to change that which we observe is to decide to change; the rest continues to float with the current along with everyone else down the river of dreams…

  3. Robert, OK you got me thinking a little deeper. Last 2 weeks have been beyond busy and full of action. Pretending anything is a great observation for me to pick up and use. As a technician there is no pretending.
    as a husband, I do pretend things and as a father also.. Thank You for the deep thought. I got it and will let this permeate the mind today. I loved the lyrics of Eric C. I’ve never read that bud did like the song, Now I know why — he was telling me some truth and I was not even aware of it.

    1. Robert, I often turn to lyrics. Remember when we started MKMMA and Trish & Mark told us that Musicians have the most balanced of the Corpus callosum (the bridge from the right hemisphere of the brain to the left hemisphere). Well that really stuck with me. If they are the most integrated of minds, then would they not even know when they write songs that they are bringing through truth; balanced and as a part of their purpose in life. If it is their purpose, who does it serve? Us!, the listeners!! if we can only pay attention and use it as an additional tool to learn. Life it learning.

      As my favorite Emerson quote goes, “Every man I meet is in some way my superior; and in that I can learn of him.” Especially musicians, poets and thoughtful men like Haanel, Og, Hill and the rest of my Master Key Mastermind friends 🙂

      1. Bob, I read you post this morning before I headed out to work. I came home and wrote out my week 18. Here is the first part:

        I read Robert D Watkins Post about Pretending to Understand. So instead of just reading it, I sought to understand how I could apply this.

        I would like to thank you for just opening up and laying out a piece of you. I had this thought all day and the fight in my brain was epic, but the bad thoughts lost. When I spent time reading how others are doing in the class, I’m inspired and Grateful for the privilege to be a part of this. We all give something, but as we add that up like the week of Kindness, it blows my mind to have experienced that kind of Love and Kindness. The end of the week looked pretty grim at the moment of a not so pleasant exchange. Now a couple of weeks later, there was kindness in the fog of turmoil I was in..

        I did key on the part you wrote about “being present…..like the gyroscope….remove Ego. What I did was take the time to copy, send to my phone and reread it to dig for the understanding of the message in the words. No I did not get it all, but I still have a copy of it.

        Bob Thank YOU, Please Always stay Humble and Present like you are now,

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